Episode #76 – The Word For This Year – 2026

In Philippians 4:6 it says, "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything in prayer, in supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God, and He will give us peace of mind and heart that surpasses all understanding."

Because when we were children, we were fascinated by the world around us. We were curious. We like to create things and there was no fear. However, when we become an adult, somehow fear starts controlling our imagination. Doubt starts creeping in self-doubt, self fulfilling prophecy that says that tells us that we will never going to achieve whatever we put our heart and mind into it. So this is why when you start learning to be creative creativity doesn’t mean that you have to be a painter.

Creativity doesn’t mean you need to be a potter. I don’t know. Creativity can sometimes perhaps in music or in writing or in meditating or praying. Creativity sparks with me especially when I lack of creativity. I go outside. I go to the nature. I sometimes sit in my car reflecting and thinking or in the middle of the night at 2:00 in the morning when I’m awaken and some idea pops into my brain.

My creativity sparks when I am calm. Your creativity will not come out when you are hijacked in your nervous system. When you are not calm and centered and aligned with yourself mentally, emotionally and physically, I think you are going to short circuit and you’re going to block your creativity. When people say, “I have a mental block or a writer’s block because I don’t know where to put I don’t know where to get the creativity.”

Maybe because you have been frazzled, you have been running around, you have too much in your plate and you think that you become a superwoman or hero when you have all of these things. This is why as a woman and as a mother and I would like to emphasize that you need to be able to give time for yourself to decompress, to distress, to have something alone time for yourself to really understand what you’re going through as a woman and as a wife. Because as a woman first, I’m a woman first and I’m a wife next and I’m a mother. We juggle too much and we have too many hats that we wear. We have too much responsibility on our plate.

Therefore, sometimes when we are taking on too much responsibility as a woman and we forgotten that we also have a life on our own before madness started before all of this responsibility start coming into our lives. We somehow thought that as a woman we must fix everybody and cater to everybody and to always be available at everybody’s disposal. But sometimes when we’re not careful as a woman, we will pay for the price and we are going to not have so much creativity. And I know that for some people we are constantly being guilt up by society.

When a woman started to say, I’m going to do what’s best for me. I’m going to start doing that I love. We are somehow we feel guilty. I used to feel so bad when I leave my son to my husband when he was a lot younger and I would just want to go outside and go to Target or shop for myself and I would be out for 1 hour.

I would have this nagging voice that says, “You’re too selfish. You’re not supposed to go outside by yourself because you have a toddler waiting for you at home.” But that is a big fat lie because when you are not taking care of yourself as a woman, no one else is taking care of us. No one else is going to be there for us or make dinner for us or give us a helping hand because majority of people in our lives are takers.

And we have been condition as a woman, our society that we have to be always catering to everybody’s needs and always going to be at their beck and call. that sometimes when we are not in touch with ourselves as a woman. When we don’t tap into our creativity we are going to become tired too exhausted to a point where we’re going to be overwhelmed and we’re going to snap and we are not very pleasant to be around with trust me when I know when I said that because I used to be in that category before I was short circuit I was very snappy and every time it’s because I was always going around and saying yes to everybody.

I had too many engagements when I was, you know, trying to bring out my son into this world. He had dealt with eczema. I had sleep deprivation. On top of that, my family lived so far away. And every time there was an occasion, birthday parties or any special event in my family back in California, I would just go there, drive there by myself with me and my son or fly.

And I also was involved in the church before. So I was always saying yes to every event. I was always available for everybody. I was cooking, cleaning, doing all of these things because I thought that I would be rewarded. And I really think that many of us perform or we overly extend ourselves because we thought that people are going to love us more or people are going to see our worth and our value if we’re going to be constantly available.

Actually, I realized it is further from the truth. People are never going to appreciate love you more just because you are constantly available or readily accessible whenever they need you. And that revelation has transformed my life in a way that today I have no more problem saying no when I want to say no. I have no problem constantly being pushed around and says no that is that is not acceptable and having a healthy boundary.

If you have not read the book boundaries uh this was the book that I have read many years ago. It’s about healthy boundary. I’ll try to link the book on the description below. That book has helped me about how to place a healthy boundary. This is a book that truly helped me see that boundary is not something to protect yourself. It is actually preserving your time, your energy and your accessibility by the people around you who are constantly taking advantage of your goodness and your kindness.

Boundary is like a fence.

Reminder, remind yourself as your neighbor has a fence. So that there’s a boundary that you cannot cross here. there’s no trespassing. In the same way with our life when we have this invisible boundary, it is making us it’s actually asking other people and teaching them rather and how or how we want to be treated.

So a boundary is an invisible rope that we are going to say no this is what I’m about. This is exactly what I do not tolerate anymore. I used to tolerate that because I did not know any better. But now that I’m an adult I know better now. So we really have to understand that you are not being stuck up when you place your boundary.

You’re not trying to say that I don’t need people because we do need people. No man is an island. Let’s just face the reality.

You cannot survive without people around you. However, the right kind of people, the like-minded people, the kind of people that will help you elevate into the next future and help you catapult into a better world or whatever that you’re trying to make. The one that will lift you up instead of drag you down. The ones that going to see your potential instead of diminish your light. These are the kind of people that we must be able to surround ourselves with and try to be surrounded by their light because we know that [music] in this world we have two opposites.