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Hi everyone, welcome back to another podcast. If you’re here for the first time, I would like to welcome you. This is Glennavelle Manarang, your hostess for today. Welcome to Soulish Femme, Real Talk with me. Today is a topic about there is no shortcuts in life. You can work smarter. There are apps that you can use today to help your life easier and more productive. However, when it comes to other things in life, I really do not buy about doing things haphazardly or half-heartedly and hoping that you will receive the kind of results you hoped for. For instance, let’s talk about eating healthy and a lifestyle that is vigorous that includes discipline and motivation. Because I think that if you’re just going to patch things up, you are going to most likely are going to end up doing the same thing over and over again.
Many people believe that in order for them to achieve the type of body they need, you know, exactly the kind of fads that is happening right now in the world.
Ways To The Every Step Counts:
The quick fix agenda of losing weight and they are going to tell you, otherwise; that if you’re going to do this or ingest this into your system, then you’re going to have this losing weight. But it’s not longevity. It’s not sustainability.
1. Discipline
Discipline is what many people are lacking. It’s not because you lack time. It’s about discipline. Where do you spend your time? How do you manage your time? Because if you’re not starting good and early in the morning. It is about preparation the night before. If you don’t even know what your day is going to be looking like and you’re just going to aim at nothing, most likely you are not going to aim at something. You must decide maybe prior the night before if you’re going to work out, you have to at least have a workout clothes ready and then structure your working out habits.
Maybe you’re going to allocate your time Monday, Wednesdays and Fridays for me are usually yoga, stretching, it’s Pilates, and then Tuesdays and Thursdays are something to do with the strength training and stretching or ballet barre. It really depends on your time and energy. But that’s where discipline is because if you’re just going to do a quick fix of taking something, what happens if you’re not have self-control and you keep eating things that actually is going to be detrimental to your body?
Take Note: So, it’s always about moderation is the key. It’s not excess. It’s not something to do with I’m going to just do this now and then I’m going to be off the wagon.
2. Consistency
With anything in life, it takes consistency is another part. Like brushing your teeth. Hopefully, you’re brushing your teeth mornings and at night time before you go to sleep. With anything in life, it is about consistency. You must show up day in and day out. It is about repetition. It’s about the rigorous doing things over and over again until it becomes a permanent habit. Habit is not developed once in a while. A habit is developed through small steps of action by repeatedly doing the same thing like making your bed every morning. I usually do not make my bed every morning. I let it I let it breathe and let it out the air because I heard that there is some kind of a bug that’s going to have accumulation over time that it’s going to make you allergic. So, I let it breathe and then I will eventually later on in the day I would make my bed.
3. Maintenance
Practice: The same thing with organization with our life. It is all about maintenance. So there’s no shortcuts. It’s about maintenance. In order for you to have a tidy house, an environment that is organized, you must keep up with your laundry. You must keep up with cleaning your toilet and your bathtub. It is a maintenance of keeping up with your junk and getting rid of them. It’s keeping up with your pantry and your fridge and tossing out the leftover food that you don’t need. So, when you want to have the kind of successful life, there is no such thing as shortcut. But it’s maintaining something that is permanently conducive so that you’re not you’re going to see a result. So it’s about maintaining a habit, maintaining a structure, and maintaining a system. You need to have a system in place for you to naturally do it. I like to have my to-do list usually. Sometimes I’m flexible. Sometimes I’m very good at following. You can have Mondays through Sundays for your to-do list.
Examples:
Weekly scheduling
For me, I usually like to do my laundry. I will just give you an example. Mondays, Wednesdays, and then Fridays depending on the load of laundry I have. I just go through it because I don’t want to pile it up. So, you have to be able to have a system and gather maybe a bunch of clothes by their colors and do them incrementally so that it doesn’t get overwhelming to you. The same thing with the mail.
Don’t let it pile up, declutter as you go.
You don’t let your mail piled up and sit in the corner and not being opened because eventually it’s going to accumulate to a point where you are no longer going to open them because you got too overwhelmed. with the same thing with our clothes. The maintenance of your clothes is that going through every season and getting rid of any items that you no longer have been wearing or have not touched for the last 3 months and giving them away. Or, maybe tossing them into the garbage if there’s torn pieces or anything that is damaged. and also trying to get rid of summer clothes now that we’re into entering into a cold season and tucking them away for summer.
Incremental habits
So, there are things that you can do to maintain something so that you are not going to these are working strategically. That’s why I said there’s no such such thing as shortcuts but there are things that you can envelop and there are habits that you can do or characteristics that you can put into action so that you can attain something in your life that is will work perfectly for you.
There are habit formation frameworks. I’m not sure which book I have attained this from but one of the things that says to form a new habit is to initiate and training and maintain maintenance.
So, first of all you need to initiate in your life something a framework that you have to develop is to have a training and then you have to maintain it. So for instance, if you’re trying to maintain a healthy habit, a healthy diet. So what does it look like? First of all, you have to watch what you eat. The food intake, the amount of portion that you take into your body, what kind of food you eat. Instead of eating too much sugar, maybe you can replace it with fruits and vegetables. I know that for many of us, including myself, have a hard time eating regularly with fruits and vegetables because it is in our culture that we have been ingrained to reach for sugary stuff like donuts and anything that is not good for our bodies. So instead of drinking too much soda, maybe you should replace it with water.
So, there are things that you can do to maintain it. There are things that you can swap. Instead of naturally doing things that are bad for your body, you can probably swap it.
Glennavelle Manarang
You have to take action. You know that you have time to think or you have time to read a book and you have time to exercise because you are lacking of discipline and decision. That’s why you are constantly going to overly analyze. When you overly analyze, you’re going to get stuck. The sooner you take action and you don’t allow your brain to question what you’re doing because your brain is going to resist you because that’s our brain. Our brain is complacent. our mindset. If you don’t change your mindset, it wants to stay in the status quo because our brain is naturally lazy. It wants the comfort. That’s why change is very hard for many people because our brain is going to resist you saying I think you I thought you just want to sit around and doing nothing. I thought you just want to spend your day scrolling on your Instagram or Tik-tok and just waste your time time away.
Building at scale
But if you’re not also directing your brain into something productive, it’s going to choose to do things that is easy. But if you’re going to tell your brain the first thing in the morning and you’re going to tell your brain today we are going to work out even if it’s only 10 minutes or 20 minutes a day you need to give your mind a specific direction of what you’re aiming at because as I said previously that if you’re not going to give your brain direction it’s just going to do whatever it wants.
So, if you’re going to dictate and you need to probe something in your brain, a suggestion, and says, “This morning we’re gonna record a podcast after we had our breakfast, or this morning we’re going to at least move our body for 20 minutes outside, or this morning, I need to journal or read my Bible.” Because if you’re not have systems and you don’t have a a clarity of where what your day is look what what what your day looks like or where what you want to do in the whole day then you’re most likely just going to wander off and wasting your time away.
And another thing is that in order for you to initiate a new behavior because as I said you need to swap things and switch from complacency into productivity to initiate a new behavior you need to also have from yourself is to have again it’s a repetition I already mentioned about that it’s maintaining through consistency and we achieve our goals by taking action according to Nike is you just do it because in order for you to really achieve something in life, you just have to do it. If you want to really have a life that is sustainable and you want to keep a healthy lifestyle for instance, you must research of what healthy people do, what do they eat, how do they show up for themselves, what kind of workout they do, what are the habits that they do.
Maybe they drink lots of water. They usually have eight hours of sleep. They go outside to get enough sunlight. They probably move around their body. They vacuum or they mop the floor instead of sedentary. So you need to be a student of your own life. As I said, the mastery of your own self. You have to master your weaknesses and also you must be able to maintain the kind of accountability. You need to take accountability in your life. You cannot make excuses for yourself. I’m not saying that you’re going to aim for perfection because it’s not about perfection here. It’s about progression.
You have to have accountability. If you think that you have been a little lazy today because you have allowed yourself to relax and not following your routine or your schedule, then you can probably pick up where you’re left up today. You allow yourself of course to rest. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have time to rest and decompress. However, if you have not followed your routine this throughout the week, you can actually start again. You must be able to move faster and not beat yourself up saying, “I am such a lazy person or my gosh, I have actually did not follow rigidly on my schedule.” It’s okay that sometimes you are not rigid about following your schedule. At least you give yourself allowance and then you can just pick up where you left off. I’m not always following my schedule strategically.
Sometimes I work productively in the morning. That’s where I’m very productive in the morning. And that’s a time when I do the hard stuff. It’s about priorities, too. The hard things for me to do are usually producing short videos and producing podcasting like this one recording. I need to get this out of the way because this is one of the things that is going to make me money. But laundry doesn’t make me money. You know, mopping the floor doesn’t make me money. scrubbing my toilet doesn’t really make me money.
4. Prioritize
So, you need to prioritize. You need to put things into the first priority of what must I have to do that I’m going to earn money eventually that when I plant something a seed and I focus on this area, I am going to get paid for it. Because the rest of our to-do list sometimes when you’re not really careful, this can wait. I mean, laundry can wait, pile of dishes can wait, scrubbing the toilet can wait. As long as they’re done throughout the day or maybe throughout the week, you’re fine. But something that you have to really take into inventory the things that are your top priority that’s going to have a value or exchange of income or profit that you can take from. I have to really be mindful of it sometimes because for me writing a book is also hard and producing a blog and transcribing my my podcast into a form of a blog through solosfam.com. The link is down below. These are hard things for me to do. But I have really thought to myself that if I’m not going to do this first, I might be able to do this the rest of the day. Because here you are scrubbing your toilet, doing all this to-do list, and then you’re already tired, and maybe you’re just going to sit around and scrolling mindlessly and watching random videos on YouTube, and there goes your productivity.
Analogy: Because our brain is like a cellular phone. Your brain is probably not fully charged anymore because you already used it up for the rest of the day, the whole day that you have. And then by the end of the day or halfway in the afternoon, you already are tired and sluggish, unfocused and your motivation is no longer there. So I have to be mindful that my priority is on my business and thriving on my business and putting my effort and my time by producing podcast Mondays and Thursdays religiously as I promised to you guys and transcribing my videos into a vlog in a blog format so that you can read it to those who are usually like to follow along of what I say and also trying to produce short videos. So, it’s about priority. As I said, there’s no such thing as shortcuts in life. I wish there is, but that doesn’t really sustain you.
There’s no such thing as trying to move ahead in life without working hard. That’s why the Bible is clear. You have to endure. You have to be steadfast. You have to be immovable. You’re like a farmer who is planting a seed in the soil. First of all, I grew up in a farm and you need to at least fertile the soil. You have to cultivate the soil. You have to break the hard stuff of the soil and cultivate it so that it’s going to be a lot easier for you to plant a seed in the ground. In the same thing with life, when you plant a seed today, you do not expect a harvest tomorrow. When you plant a watermelon today, when you wake up tomorrow morning, watermelon is not going to be there. It takes at least few weeks or months before you can see something that will sprout out of the soil. It takes a lot of energy to cultivate and it needs oxygen. It needs water. It needs fertilizer. It needs the kind of tender loving care.
A journey to permanent results require small daily habits.
The same thing with life. You need to just keep showing up for yourself no matter how hard it is because that’s just what life is. If people are selling you with this mindset that I have a quick fix scheme, you should run if it’s too good to be true because it is too good to be true. Because really that kind of mindset, it is not going to sustain you.
People who wants to take a shortcut usually are not the most reliable people in the world. I don’t think when you read the Bible, there’s really no such thing as going to have a shortcut route. When you read the Bible of David, he became a king later on in life. Even though he was anointed, appointed by the Samuel, the prophet Samuel by God when he was around per se teenage years, but he did not become a king later on. You know why?
Because God is actually testing your character. You know why that sometimes God wants you to wait? Because if you are given this much of money and you don’t have the good character to keep it and if you don’t even have the stamina on how to be able to treat people right when you have everything and you’re not faithful in the small things, you are going to just blow it up and you’re just going to show forth a bad character. That’s why sometimes we have to really grow where you are planted. It is as cliche as it may sound and you’ve heard this many times before. You just have to bloom.
You just have to grow where you are planted. Even though you might be waiting forever like Joseph too. Joseph had also visions from God when he was 17 years old and he did not become the prime minister or the governor until later on in life. He was imprisoned. If you know the story of Joseph, he was also thrown into jail, accused something of something that he did not do. He was sold by his own brothers into the slavery. So he had to go through hardships. But David and Joseph have something in common. They did not complain. They endured whatever trials or whatever challenges they have faced. They actually grew their character that even though in the midst of their trials, they believed that God was with them, that God was going to help them get through it.
Then over time, when it was about their time to rule, they have actually done what is right. And they have become one of the most prolific leaders. And we still talk about them even to this day because they’re the example that they did not take the shortcut because God did not allow them because God was molding them. God was purifying their character. God was testing their patience. That’s why somewhere in the Bible that says with with your trials, you’re going to produce perseverance. With perseverance, you produce patience and hope. And hopefully after that, excuse me, you’re going to have character.
And that’s just what life is. You got to be able to have patience, endurance, and to build character. When you are not building character, you are taking shortcuts. And as I said, if you’re taking shortcuts, it is not sustainable. It doesn’t stand throughout the test of time. And you are just going to quit and give up too soon. And usually people who take shortcuts, they’re going to lose everything too. You cannot have this hastiness in you because impulsive decisions, impulsive things that you do, they’re not going to last. Nothing lasts until such time that you’re willing to be rooted and grounded on the ground and you’re just willing to be molded and really been worked from the inside out to from the things that you are still need to work on.
So these are just the things that I want you to think about. There are no shortcuts in life. You must do the hard thing. You must stick through it and do not buy from people who are selling you nothing but a snake oil. I hope you have learned from this message today. As always, I would like you to be bold, be brave, and courageous. If you’re ready to embark on your healing journey, I have made a master class through UDI. The link is down below. Have a wonderful day ahead of you.
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